緣份是找到包容你的人

有一個男人為了參加第二天的小學同學會，特地上街買一條新長褲。他回家穿上後，卻發覺長度多了 十公分 。於是請求媽媽替他改。媽媽說，身體不舒服，想早一點休息,今晚不想改。他改請求太太替他改。太太說，還有許多家事要做，今晚沒有時間改。於是他改請求女兒替他改。女兒說，今晚跟男朋友約好去跳舞，沒有時間改。他想想，既然如此，明天穿舊的長褲去同學會也可以！

當天晚上，他媽媽心想：「兒子平時對我很孝順，他開口要求總不好拒絕他。」於是，起來替兒子改長褲，剪短了 十公分 。
他太太稍晚做完家事心想：「老公平時很有耐心，今天他是不會縫針線才開口要求，總不好拒絕他。」於是替先生改長褲，剪短了 十公分 。
他女兒晚上回來：「爸爸不阻止我去跳舞，實在是開明的老爸，今天實在應該替他修改長褲。」於是替爸爸改長褲，剪短了 十公分 。

第二天早上，三個女人分別告訴男主人此事。他一試長褲，已經變成吊腳褲了。

他的反應是......哈哈一笑，說：「我一定要穿去給同學看，告訴他們，我的媽媽、太太、和女兒對我多好。」
結果，老同學們一致稱讚他家庭經營成功。他的媽媽、太太、和女兒也都很高興。

如果您是故事中的男人或女人，當下您會做何反應？
「哈哈一笑」抑或「破口大罵」？

人，面對外人時，總是可以表現得雍容大肚、心平氣和，但面對自己最親近的家人，卻往往一點小事就足以皺起眉頭，甚至出言相傷。如果形容人類是一種「出門高E.Q，回家低E.Q」的動物，我想一點兒也不誇張，多拿出一點耐心與幽默感給家人吧！否則您自己也不會快樂，不是嗎？

Credit goes to my friend, Xyi.

Before and After

Bentuckee's note:

I know this is not suppose to be funny. It just shows how... lousy some cars are. It is because of one of these cheap scrap metal-made cars that my friend and his family passed away recently. 

Please lah local car makers, upgrade the quality, however much money also I will be willing to pay. 

 

Before

After

No wonder Top Gear hentam them that bad.

兩道選擇題,做完之後是沉默 值得您細看

Bentuckee's note: Thanks A for forwarding this mail to me. Too good that I share this immediately. It makes sense totally.
兩道選擇題,做完之後是沉默   值得您細看......
上課了。老教授面帶微笑，走進教室，對同學們說："我受一家機構委託，來做一項問卷調查，請同學們幫個忙。"一聽這話，教室裏輕微的一陣議論：問卷？比上課有趣多了。問卷表發下來，同學們一看，只有兩道題。

 1)他很愛她。她細細的瓜子臉，彎彎的娥眉，面色白皙，美麗動人。可是有一天，她不幸遇上了車禍，痊癒後，臉上留下幾道大大的醜陋疤痕。
你覺得，他會一如既往地愛她嗎？

A、他一定會
B、他一定不會
C、他可能會


2) 她很愛他。他是商界的精英，儒雅沉穩，敢打敢拼。忽然有一天，他破產了。
你覺得，她還會像以前一樣愛他嗎？

A、她一定會
B、她一定不會
C、她可能會


一會兒，同學們就做好了。問卷收上來，教授一統計，發現：第一題有10%的同學選A，10%的同學選B，80%的同學選C。
第二題呢，30%的同學選了A，30%的同學選B，40%的同學選C。


"看來，美女毀容比男人破產，更讓人不能容忍啊。
"教授笑了，"做這兩題時，潛意識裏，你們是不是把他和她當成了戀人關係？"
"是啊。"同學們答得很整齊。

"可是，題目本身並沒有說他和她是戀人關係啊？"教授似有深意地看著大家，"現在，我們來假設一下，
如果，第一題中的'他'是'她'的父親，第二題中的'她'是'他'的母親。 讓你把這兩道題重新做一遍，你還會堅持原來的選擇嗎？" 問卷再次發到同學們的手中，教室裏忽然變得非常寧靜，一張張年青的面龐變得凝重而深沉。
幾分鐘後，問卷收了上來，教授再一統計，兩道題，同學們都100%地選了A。 教授的語調深沉而動情：
"這個世界上，有一種愛，亙古綿長，無私無求；不因季節更替。 不因名利浮沉，這就是父母的愛啊！"

80/20 Rule

Bentuckee's note:

This is one of the best mail I got. I really love the logic the author puts in. And through experience I can tell that it's really true. Realising the conclusion will make us a happier person and thus living a more confident and fruitful life. Hope you would enjoy it and do read every word below.  

 

Reality---Worth Reading.
:QUOTE ' DO NOT LOOK BACK AND ASK WHY, LOOK FORWARD AND ASK WHY NOT'

A very valuable lesson to learn ...

Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?' In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not' Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did. Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..' Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host. But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have! That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have. But I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about life! About your jobs. About your friends. About your children. About your lifestyles. Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!' I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet? The main message??? If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!